How long should a spouse wait before being concerned that sex is not a priority in the relationship?

How long should a spouse wait before being concerned if sex is refused or put-off in a relationship? This is based on no other person in the picture (cheating) but strictly a marriage where one spouse doesn't want or ever feel like having sex but acts like it's perfectly normal. Or maybe this is natural as a marriage matures?How long should a spouse wait before being concerned that sex is not a priority in the relationship?As marriages mature, I believe that the need/desire for sex does wane somewhat. Sometimes, it's just that the couple or one of them is just too busy, tired, stressed, depressed, or feeling under appreciated, taken for granted, or just disconnected. My husband once told me that when he was single, all he could think about was sex- when was he going to be able to get it again- and now that he is married and can have it any time that he wants, it's not such a big deal. Our sex life went from 3 times a week to once every three months in about five years time.

I don't know what your circumstances are, but don't let it go as long as I have thinking that it will improve. It may if you are lucky, but be honest with him about your feelings, don't assume he knows how you feel. Don't let fear keep you from speaking out, letting him know what you need, and finding out what he needs from you to make it happen. Be open and honest, that's the only way to keep your marriage moving in the right direction. Good luck!How long should a spouse wait before being concerned that sex is not a priority in the relationship?
I guess your answer just really depends on which partner doesn't want sex, and how sharply the amount of sex has decreased in your relationship. This answer could be different for everyone: obviously, men usually want sex more than women do (although that's not always the case), so if he used to ask for sex 4 times a week and now all of a sudden never seems interested, I would say that's a problem. If it's you on the other hand, and you used to like having sex at least once or twice a week, and now you're not interested for weeks on end, that might be a problem. The circumstances of your lives also can factor into this: have you recently had a child? Does one of you have a really long and tiring work schedule that wasn't there before? Are you having problems with a child or elderly parent? All of these things can cause stress and make a partner feel less interested in sex because they have so much on their mind. I think it is normal for sex to decrease in marriage, but if it's non-existent then there might be a problem there. If it's coming from your husband, there could be other problems like addictions to porn, gaming, internet poker, etc. It's really hard to say if your situation is normal because I don't know any of the circumstances, but if you feel as though things aren't "normal" in your relationship, I encourage you to say something to your husband and let him know how you're feeling. It can be uncomfortable, but you'll probably end up feeling better! :-)How long should a spouse wait before being concerned that sex is not a priority in the relationship?For some people sex does lose its attraction, eventually. It is too bad that all the men and all the women who feel this way aren't married to each other. People who have lost interest in sex are not bothered by going without and it feels perfectly normal to them, while their spouses are definitely feeling bothered by a lack of intimacy. Age and decreasing hormone production is responsible for a lot of this, and IS normal, unless it happens too early. Hormone therapy can sometimes help.



It is very hard to define what is normal in a marriage. It is much easier to tell whether or not you are happy with the status quo, or if it is a deal breaker. The best thing is to have a heart to heart talk about it with your spouse, followed by a physical check up, and perhaps couples counseling.
It depends on how often you were having sex before the change occurred. If you're used to having sex everyday, then even a week without it happening can seem very strange. If it was only going on twice a week, then maybe two weeks could go by with no need for concern.



People say that the frequency of sex declines as a marriage progresses. I haven't been married long enough to experience this, but I would imagine that it would not happen overnight. I think it would slow down over the years, not disappear all of a sudden.



If you are not satisfied, you need to communicate this to your partner and try to come to the root of the problem.How long should a spouse wait before being concerned that sex is not a priority in the relationship?I would wait until a doctor ruled out any sort of medical condition or issue and until counseling did nothing to remedy the problem. After that, divorce and it's game on. If it's something you are unable to live with, it's not natural for your marriage ... regardless of what happens in anyone else's marriage.How long should a spouse wait before being concerned that sex is not a priority in the relationship?
you already know because you are asking now it's time to ask HIM! Sometimes men get depressed and can't get it up for that reason. Sometimes they feel less close to you and that's how it manifests. Sometimes we get old and not as horny as when we were young. Just ask him but don't make him feel pathetic or that he is not pleasing you. That insinuation will only make him want to do it less.
Aside from just having a child or if there is some medical condition, you should be concerned at the point where monogamy feels like celibacy. The idea of monogamy is that you ARE having sex with one person, when you are not, it's not monogamy any more.How long should a spouse wait before being concerned that sex is not a priority in the relationship?
6 months... presuming the wife hasn't recently had a baby and isn't currently pregnant. Either partner can go through a difficult time period which results in a very low libido, but then some right back out of it just as easily. However, if the problem has been going on for several months and there's no clear reason why, the couple needs to have a chat and figure out what to do.
Has3,



In all relationships their are ebbs and flows when it comes to physical contact and some times your just not feeling it.



Then a few months later after you dress up like a gladiator or she plays a slave princess you are hot and heavy again also make sure that you both are staying fit and not becoming lazy sloths because that will affect sexual desire as well.



Later,

Tat
As soon as there is the first thought, "is this normal?" That's probably a red flag.



Sex was created by God for one man and one woman who are in a marriage together. It is part of His design.
Address it immediately as my experience has been that time is not a healer in this arena.
sex declines as the marriage goes on...if anyone tells you different they are lying. If all of a suddent the spouse is extra nice they are feeling guilty and cheating.
@the Bobster...perfect!



I think I wouldn't go by time but the number of refusals. If it was more than 3 or 4 times I would ask what's up (or not, as the case may be).
Some medicines cause you to not want sex. This could be it if he is taking medicines like this.
Straight away. U have to have sex to make it legal.
48 hrs.
It depends what's normal for you and him.
Looking at your pic I reckon he must be crazee.