He tried to have sex with me?

Okay so i'm a 14 year old freshman girl and there's this extremely hot guy on the boys varsity bball team that my brother plays on. His name's Omar (: He has the most ripped body i've ever seen, beautiful eyes, he's like 6'2 and he's just the total package! He's considered the hottest guy in class of 2011 ahah. He's a 17 year old senior. So like I got his number from my friend and then I just texted him "hey" and like 15 minutes, he was already making plans to come pick me up to we could chill at his house. I said no though and that I couldn't that night. But yesterday, I was at my friends house and I was texting him, and I agreed to go to his house, so he picked me up from there. When we got to his house, we went up to his room and he locked the door, and we started making out and I could tell he was really liking it and so was I. And then all of a sudden, he started taking off my pants and threw me on the bed, and then got on top of me. So he had already taken off my pants AND underwear, so I was there half naked underneath him, and then he took off his pants and boxers and then tried to stick his diiiick in! Then I was like "nooo, sorry I can't." then he was like "ohh common baby, just lay back down. it's okay." then I kept saying, "no really, stop get off of me." and then I kept trying to get up, but then he kept pushing my shoulders down and holding them. and then I finally said "No! I mean it, like seriously i cant do this. get off of me." and he just kept saying, "baby it's okay. baby, just relax. what did i do baby?" and then I told him no again, and then he finally got off of me. So we didn't actually have sex, but he was like 4 inches away from getting it in, haha. I honestly thought he was gonna rape me because he kept trying to force himself in, but I just kept pushing him away so he couldn't. I think one of the reasons he stopped was because his little brother was downstairs, so maybe he didn't want him to hear the noise/commotion of me yelling for him to stop. So then as he was driving me back to my friends house, he said "ohh i'm not mad or anything, like I respect a girl who can say no. So when we get to know each other more, maybe you'll let me." Do you think he means this? So like now today at school, he kept looking at me, but he didn't say hi or anything? What does this whole thing mean? Does he like me or no? I just want to know. Kthanks! (:|||Guy Translation


Let's chill - I want to have sex


When are we gonna kick it? - When are we gonna have sex?


Want to hang out at my house? - Want to come over and have sex?





No he doesn't like you, he just wants to have sex. The guys always call the new freshmen girls "fresh meat." (Pretty gross but sooo true). So just know, if you talk to a guy for only a few days and he's already inviting you over, he wants to have sex. And by you going over there without even knowing him he thought you were dtf (down to ****).|||.....theres not much to say except that you did in fact almost get raped. they have this game called keep away and you should play it with him. your vagina is not safe.|||I would avoid him and only see him again if you really want to have sex, don't think he won't try again so unless you are comfortable with that then back off|||Basically, he wants action.|||That is what you call "sexual assault."





You should call the police. If you won't do that, at least stay away from him. Never get drunk with him.|||he just whats to have sex with you, he don't really like its all about sex sorry but you should have known better.|||Seniors get with freshman because they're easy. Don't let him fool you, he just wants some action.|||Did you make this up? It sounds like a fake story to me.|||omar shut up u 17 year old indian virgin!|||dump him|||He does not want you


He clearly only wants ur vagina! if u are smart u will not ''chill'' with him anymore.|||Short story long he wants to hit it and quit it he is older and you are younger u r dumb he is smarter he want action dump u then u pregnant and lonely no dad no boyfriend and ur life ruined. he doesnt like u he only wants sex|||Hunny! Listen to yourself, Stay the hell away from this guy! Next time he might not stop when you say no. Guys like that are scary, you should learn from that situation and delete his number. If he's sooo hot he should be able to have sex with a different girl, not almost rape an innocent freshman. He's bad news sweetheart. Date a guy your age. :)|||No, he doesn't like you. Guys that like you take you out and treat you with some measure of respect. Yes, at some point they will try to have sex with you, but guys who like you will want to be in some sort of relationship with you at first. The fact that you never even went on a date with him, went straight to his house, marched straight up to his room and got busy, says volumes. You're just sex. Omar being the hottest guy in school is used to girls giving him sex right away.Also, you very nearly got raped...and although it wouldn't have been your fault no matter what, you need to learn from this experience and be a little bit smarter. If you don't intend on having sex, don't go meet him at his house when you know no one else is going to be home. Huge red flag right there. Don't go up to his bedroom, and when you see him locking the door, that's an indication that the two of you are about to do things that require privacy. Try to avoid putting yourself into these situations in the future.|||omg girl.. of course he likes you.. but only for sex.. he doesnt care bout you.. please be careful.. i mean its fine to have the hotts for older guys.. but just stay away from him.. he just wants sex.. are you sure your ready for that?|||I don't think he likes you I just think he want to sleep with you, that why he was so eager to the first time. If I were you I would forget about him, you could flirt with him and stuff, that sounds like it could be fun, but don't set yourself up for getting hurt.|||ok first of all i know what he did was wrong it is sexual assault ok u need to leave him along and have nothing to do with this guy like im dead serious he is doing nothing but wanting to have sex with you ok he is using u for his pleasure and ur to young for that u dont need a guy like that u said stop so that means stop he didn so sexual assault right there ok u need to leave him along u shouldnt be smiling u could have been raped delete his number and dont talk to him i promise its for the better its what u need to do trust me nothing good of this is to come but u getting hurt and him using u|||Statuatory rape. If he is going to put his weiner in you with out consent thats rape. Sorry, but if u dont want to have sex w/him and he trys that again slap him or get help!!|||Of course he wants to have sex with you! He already can see that he can break you down, tell you that once you get to know me and i am not mad that you didn't and i like a girl that says no. He is full of crap!


Why would you text him? What do you think he was going think? Why else would you go to a 17 yr. old house that you don't even know. Obviously you gave him that impression. Don't play with fire and you won't get burnt.





At 14 years old if you were my child i would be taking away your cell phone and grounding you. A 14 year old shouldn't be worried about a six pack on any guy. You are going no where fast.|||After he takes your virginity away next time you two hang out, he'll stop talking to you and brag to all his guy friends about how he "got laid" by a virgin.





It'll happen, just watch.|||well for one look girl i have been through this so i know almost the exact same thing, but i was at a party at the time. well for one you are a lot too young to be getting in a senior's care and all of that! two you are too young once again to be at a boy's house by yourself! three you are doing a little too much at the age of 14 and im 16 so i know how it works! basically junior and senior guys like to hit on the young one's, they call it HIT IT AND QUIT IT! so all they want is fresh vagina at the time and you may think your in love and all that good stuff till you find out all that he really wanted was the NEW stuff on your body. im not trying to let you down but he really doesnt like you he jus wants what you have until it is over, take my advice or leave it. :)|||Ugh, this is a perfect example of how fickle men are. :/ I hate to be bluntly honest with you, my dear, but this guy is just there for sex. Even though those guys really SEEM amazing, they may have the ugliest hearts. My advice is to get him out of your mind! You did the RIGHT thing, not agreeing to have sex with him. If you had, I would bet that he would have thrown you aside after it happened. Good job being a strong young woman! And it doesn't hurt to warn those other gals that think he's so amazing to steer clear from him, either. :) Hope this helps!|||The only thing his behavior should tell you is that he has no respect for you and just wants to have sex. Besides the fact that you are jailbait for him (think of him spending the rest of his life on a sexual predators list), it would be wise for you to consider not putting yourself in the position of allowing others to take advantage of you. The whole thing was foolish and childish, and no he doesn't "like" you...he wants sex and you made yourself available.|||For starters stop teasing guys a lot over than yourself if you have no intention of going all the way, you are odviously giving them the wrong signals to think they can get away with this behaviour , even if they are the hottest thing around it does'nt give them the right to do that but in saying that you could have said you did'nt want to go to his house let alone gone into his room .


He does'nt mean anything he is just keeping you sweet so you don't tell people he tried to sexually assault you.|||Sorry but I am not going to read everything that you typed up girl! He just wants sex and if he is trying to get some from a freshmen he must not be very hot because sorry hunny but seniors have a rule: NO FRESHMEN.. now when your a sophmore you will have a lot more fun but dont be a sloppy whore that guys go to for sloppy seconds!|||Gurlll are u crazzy he pretty much raped u and ur 14 and hes 17 he probley like u for the body action. He probley doesnt like u truly BUT U NEVER NOO so just think reall hard|||Ok im just gonna say it straight up. YOUR AN IDIOT. I really dont understand how anyone can be so stupid as to believe a guy actually likes you when he tried to rape you. Someone please explain to me how exactly it is kids these days dont have any, even the smallest, tinyest bit of common sense. I just dont understand it. Anyone, and i mean ANYONE should be able to tell in an instant that this guy is a horny ffaagott just trying to get in your pants. Seriously, listen to yourself. "He tried to rape me. Do you think he like me?" Dur Dur Dur. I cant even begin to fathom how you could EVER believe him when he says he genuinely likes you. HE DOESNT CARE ABOUT YOU OR YOUR FEELINGS HE WILL USE YOU AND LEAVE YOU. And youre worried about HIM being mad after HE tried to rape YOU? And you took a ride home from him? Im sorry but that is the stupidest thing i have ever heard in my life. Unless you smarten up youre gonna end up pregnant in the next year, and by the end of high school you will have a reputation as the biggest whore in the state. He. Tried. To. Rape. You. Do. You. Understand? He belongs in prison.





Now, onto the positive things. Good for you for saying no, and for standing up for yourself even when he kept pushing. I know your lack of intelligence is due to your age and inexperience, but hopefully something i said got through to you. A real man who really cares about you wont try to have sex with you. End of story. But you'll learn, whether its through mistake, or just being smart, you will come to realize this. Once again, good for you for standing strong, but you really should have called the cops on him.|||He doesn't sound like someone who genuinely loves you.








Of course, you could fall for someone and still make love with this person the next hour, but it wouldn't be this stoic and systematic. Laying a simple psychological explanation, I want to direct your attention toward certain details:


-He wanted you to get to HIS home and he asked it as directly and promptly both times;


-He took you right away to his room and locked the door;


-You were not five minute in that he started kissing you;


-And soon enough he got you on the bed.





Also notice at the way he acted: he got off your pants and underwear so quickly that you didn't have much time to recognize the situation.





I don't know how you evaluate this, but as far as psychology is concerned, he was determined and determination is usually addressed toward an end. Get an eye on how he seemed not to think at all while doing what he was; he didn't brought up a long speech, nor did he left you much time to reflect. Certainly he had thought about this, probably planned it. He didn't want to rape you, of course, hence the kissing session; his intentions were precisely to have sex with you.





His insistence, although many feel like it is a sign of danger, was more of propositional sort of insistence and that's indicated by the fact that he did leave you go away and still seem to be interested in you. It's a consequence of him being minded at having sex -- it's like he had made up a scenario which he had to follow in order to have the highest chances of success possible.








The reason why he choose you -- and I'll disappoint you -- was certainly not a profound admiration; you were someone who had an eye over him, someone who would be willing to take an hint of risk to get near him. You felt sympathetic, kind to him and that's probably why he tried to get near you.








I'll explain you how someone in love would have went. He would have expressed a behaviour more of akin to chivalry; the same reserve imposed by those moral codes would be seen in him because you would truly mean something at this person's eye. When you love someone genuinely -- I won't bother you with the philosophical explain -- it's more of a selfless appreciation than a physical desire. Understand that here, appreciation, means about "a profound admiration". Really, you'd be standing alone in his eye sight -- you'd be unique, irreplaceable.





Someone seeing this in you or being under the impression that such a feeling would follow would not risk to hurt yourself and would more than likely be prudent, careful, in his choices. Also, if anyone can very loosely ask a girl out when they do not know her, when she means something to you, revealing your feelings is a whole other deal -- it's like being dying to speak and expose yourself while being afraid to death, frightened to the bones, of hearing the answer.





It would be likely to be softer and more subtle. Had a true lover taken you to his room, he would have bothered A LOT about being sure that you are comfortable with the idea of going further. Two reasons stand for this:


-the first one is that he would like you to be there, with him, everyday and every night from this moment;


-the second one, and the most important, he wants you to be happy, at ease and harming you would be more awful than anything to him.|||Whoa! This is pretty serious. I'm very glad you said no and were able to get away. But I don't trust this guy from the story you just posted. I wouldn't stay alone with him anymore. From this story, he may like you but only to get some ***. If he REALLY truly liked you he would have had A LOT more respect and wouldn't have acted crazy with you. Honestly, who pulls off a girls clothes and keeps pushing her down?! I think that he would have tried to rape you had there not been his brother at home. If he really likes you, and you wanna risk giving him a chance, then take it slow. Make him WAIT! And try to have friends around. If you're ever alone, make sure its in a public place, not his bedroom. Just be really careful. You're really young and from his actions you're probably really pretty...don't let him take advantage of you. And you don't need a boyfriend right now anyway. Enjoy being young and free.|||no he doesn't like you. if he is the "hottest guy in his class" he can get tons of girls and you're just one on his list. the fact that he just sort of took advantage of you texting him says a lot. if he liked you he would have talked to you first. he just wants sex.|||my answer short and SIMPLE





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